From the goshiwon:
Every day I step out of my apartment complex, I see people going about their business. They’re either going to work, going to school, or doing who knows what. I’m a YouTuber here and it’s my job to talk to these people about certain things. You’d think me being a tall, bald black man in this country would make my job difficult.
It’s the exact opposite.
Talking to people comes very naturally to me. Despite who I am physically, I can approach just about anyone. What i’ve done isn’t 100% fool proof but I never let my lack of success keep me from trying every day.
Let’s back up to when I first discovered this technique.
I was in the subway. I saw a beautiful woman listening to music. Usually when a woman is wearing earbuds, that she doesn’t want to be bothered. I sometimes ignore those “social cues” and goes for it.
I asked what she was listening to.
“Oh i’m listening to some hip hop”
American or Korean?
“American for sure!”
She was about to get on the train so I asked for her number and she gave it to me.
I couldn’t believe how easy it was to get it!
I was able to get her number by doing what many people are afraid to do: just doing it.
Before I start a conversation with a person, I take a look at the surroundings. I also look at what that person is wearing, what they’re carrying, what they’re doing, and/or who they’re with. This is when I came to an understanding of how to talk to people.
I learned this in 2007 while registering for university. The line was quiet. Imagine being in a room where there’s a group of people waiting to get their IDs. It’s dead. You feel weird for saying anything.
I asked myself what that was and it was this young lady in front of me. I couldn’t figure out what she was doing so I ignored it.
She did it again. No one looked at her but I did. What is she doing, I asked myself?
“Y’know, it’s very boring when you have all of these people in line and no one says anything!”
I was shocked at how right she was. At the time, I didn’t think much of it but here I am 10 years later.
Forgot to mention when walking up to people, have a soft approach. That’ll put folks at ease. Last night, I met a live streamer walking up to people with his phone and scared people.
Don’t let the fear of being “labeled” keep you from talking to someone you want to talk to. Just walk up to them and take care of your business.
Have good posture.
Study your surroundings.
Approach the person.
That’s all there is to it. How do you start a conversation with someone? Let me know below!
Peace and love!